So The Barren is growing in his grief...he is learning to identify his triggers.
That is HUGE
He was at work learning some new stuff for his current role and a new parent was talking about how thankful they were to have some time off work and it was supported by the employer.
I got a text message saying:
" HR was talking about paid family leave and out of nowhere I find myself about to break down...doing OK now, but it was touch and go for a moment"
After work he met with him mom and they were chatting and she started to ask about all our friends with kids and how we must hang out with them and play with their kids...
He spoke up and said, you know we often need to protect ourselves from our triggers and make sure we are alright with going to an event or party. We often skip them so that we can relax and enjoy our afternoon too. He told her about the event earlier in the day.
She was flustered, and out of no where asked if we were thinking about adoption.
to which The Barren said NO
He thinks she was not sure how to deal with suddenly witnessing his grief
...I think she just needed to get a question off her chest.
Regardless, I am beyond proud of him and his new ability to speak up about things that trigger his sorrow and memories. He is making progress and that is to be applauded.
2 comments:
It's so hard for our men to tell us what they're feeling. Good for The Barren for telling his mother what he needed, and how it affects you both. I am definitely applauding him. I found my husband didn't talk about it until he knew I was doing okay. Maybe that's what The Barren is doing now too?
So awesome. Love what he said to his mom - it's so true. He's doing what I've found to be the hardest work.
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