It is a very common question to ask women if they have children, a casual question, almost like an ice breaker.
What people do not expect is when a woman answers that she doesn't have a child. The next question is why...almost involuntary, but just as causally.
Why is this ok? Do people really want to hear the answer?
They are never prepared for the answer.
I use to think to not answer, but the questions makes me uncomfortable; I pulls me back into the pain, the sorrow and the dispair. So in my own defense I turn it back onto them and answer frankly, with that, they are driven into a very intimate realm that they are not prepared for and silenced.
That is my justice.