tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30185283.post2818109492082046786..comments2024-03-23T15:28:07.546-07:00Comments on The Barreness: Thoughts from The BarrenUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30185283.post-71361188369195349482014-12-12T11:16:08.273-08:002014-12-12T11:16:08.273-08:00Here from the Round-up. This is a beautifully expr...Here from the Round-up. This is a beautifully expressed post. After living with IF, it is hard to understand how anybody could be so entitled as to assume that "want" always leads to "get" (in this case children). And yet for a great many people want does lead to get pretty consistently. We just have SUCH a different perspective. I am glad that you found your voice and put it so well here. I think it makes a difference when people express these feelings and put them out there; I hope it leads to more compassion and understanding between people.torthĂșilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30185283.post-20673760963258069652014-12-04T16:41:56.631-08:002014-12-04T16:41:56.631-08:00Perfectly put!
I am often asked why I don't l...Perfectly put!<br /><br />I am often asked why I don't look at donor eggs and people can't understand my wish not be part of an international industry that exploits finanially disadvantaged women.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30185283.post-19631259533552928242014-12-03T08:35:28.774-08:002014-12-03T08:35:28.774-08:00This is such an eloquent and well put piece. While...This is such an eloquent and well put piece. While I never got a chance to attempt to get pregnant, so much of what he said really resonated with me. The "You can use my womb" thing is something I've gotten so much. And his feelings on adoption, much mirror mine. <br /><br />The idea that the end result is most important is such an American issue. We can be so goal driven, that we can forget why we even are doing what we are doing. <br /><br />A family member of Ross' had twins by surrogacy about a decade ago. They had one child naturally, and several pregnancies that ended in miscarriage. So, they went to all lengths to get more natural born children. They had twins from the surrogacy (born premature to add to the drama of the situation). But what's so weird to me is when i look at the family now, they don't really pay much attention to these kids. it is like "we had to have them and we love them so much!" but they lack of interaction between parents and children is saddening to me. It's almost like they put so much energy into that process that now, they don't actually have the energy for the twins. (it's very evident b/c the relationship with their older child is different.) It has been interesting to observe and has left me contemplating a lot of things the Barren discusses here. Thanks so much for bringing the Barren into our blogging world! Great to get another perspective. <br /><br />And you are right, writing can be oh so healing. nicolehttp://nicoleciomek.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30185283.post-60867751569806231092014-12-02T21:29:19.326-08:002014-12-02T21:29:19.326-08:00Well, that was a treat for a number of reasons. Th...Well, that was a treat for a number of reasons. The Barren's writing is eloquent and heartfelt, his worthy perspective about being ignored is often only cursorily acknowledged, and his thoughts on the implications that none of us have tried hard enough are ... well ... thought provoking.<br /><br />Thanks so much for this.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30185283.post-79763440458333019442014-12-02T06:42:08.433-08:002014-12-02T06:42:08.433-08:00WOW! THANK YOU for sharing this. I'm going to ...WOW! THANK YOU for sharing this. I'm going to reshare this, as I think the world needs to hear more a male perspective on childless-not-by-choice life. Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.com